We each have the opportunity to fill big shoes at some point in our lives. Some of us have a lot of responsibility at home, at work and everywhere in between. Nydia graduated from college a few years before she and Jose got married and started their family. They each agreed on their roles in their home and took on their respective responsibilities. Jose worked at night and spent his time during the day helping with the kids, keeping the house tidy and ensuring he kept himself healthy with exercise and appropriate rest. Nydia was a teacher during the day and spent her evenings raising their children. They both sacrificed for their family and they both gave all they possibly could at all times; it worked for them and they lived an honest, happy life.
Since Nydia took on the role of caring for the children, she made sure they were each challenged in school and outside of school. Nydia and Jose worked extra hard so they could send their two children to private school from Kindergarten through Twelfth Grade. Nydia and Jose taught them the importance of education; how to be responsible and dependable; how to be supportive and kind; how to love others; how to love God. Each day, Nydia lived and breathed the lessons she spoke to their children.
Nydia ensured both kids were involved in a sport or activity every season of the year. Both children gravitated towards the same sports and, ultimately, spent most of the year focusing on baseball and softball. When the kids didn’t get along, Nydia made sure they had outlets and safe spaces to openly discuss what they were feeling and what led them to their scuffles. She made sure the family was fed, bathed, healthy and in peace.
Nydia was always better at being the ear-to-listen with her children. As they grew older, she became their confidant and mentor, providing guidance in truly personal matters, always directing with a strong moral compass and no attempt to influence the outcomes of those matters. Nydia simply treated her children the way she treated others; she loved them and treated them with kindness.
Nydia flew across the country to be with me just before I was diagnosed with cancer. She put herself in my shoes and gave me space to make my own decision about treatment, even when others disagreed and didn’t understand. She didn’t want me to carry the burden of paying for all of my alternative treatment, so she and my dad help me with my monthly costs. You may think that she does this because she’s my mom. YES, that’s true. However, she really does do that with anyone and everyone she loves. If you need help, she’ll help you. It’s something that has brought me to be more protective of her; I just don’t want anyone to take advantage of her, you know? She’s just the kindest person I’ve ever known and the most amazing part is that she’s my mom.
Happy Mother’s Day, Mommaburrr. The impact you’ve had on the world is eternal; everyone who knows you knows that to be true. You’re a beautiful human being and someone that EVERYONE can learn from, parents and non-parents alike. Thank you for influencing love. I love you and I’m so proud to be your daughter! God bless you and keep you safe, healthy, happy and at peace. You rock 🙂