Friday Night Check-In.

Hey, you. =)

Are you in a season of change? Are you thinking about doing something you’ve never done before? Are you conflicted or nervous? Are you battling doubt or fighting the feeling of being comfortable? Deep down, can you admit you’re settling?

Me, too.

I find I have more strength to do something “hard” when I have someone to go through it with or when someone else gives me a boost of encouragement or their own stamp of approval.

Cue Tiny Potato entrance.

I wish I could say, “I’m always, 100% confident and I never need validation or reassurance or even a security blanket!” The truth is, I am human and I am so far from perfect, I sometimes ooze doubt or anxiety. The area I most experience that fear and doubt in is my career.

Shocking?

I began working in Corporate America when I was in college. Throughout the last ten years of my life, I earned money by learning a process, getting good at it, connecting with others and using those skills, connections and my natural drive to be the best to succeed and grow in each role I took on. While this produced solid results, steady income and health/retirement benefits, career advancement (IN Corporate America), it resulted a really weird dichotomy in me. It also produced chronic stress, anxiety and depression; a cycle I’m still working on ending.

Here’s some background.

As a little girl, I thought I would grow up to be President of the United States of America and absolutely love my job. I also thought I would fly fighter jets in the military; the military turned me down several times. In the meantime, I did what I could to be independent. As soon as I could earn money, I did. In my single-digit years, I made a deal with my Padrino and secured $5 for every “A” I earned on my report cards. By ten years of age, I made a deal with Tio Chuito and cleaned his house for a whopping $5 per room. At fourteen, I convinced my doctor to hire me to help him organize his files at $9 an hour. I loved each challenge and I worked in order to see the return. I saved my earnings for specific purchase goals or for whenever I “needed” it. I didn’t always LOVE what I was doing, but I loved who I did it for and with, AND I appreciated the income it brought.

Flash forward.

Working in Corporate America quickly taught me how stressful work could be. Some days I worked with people who completely disrespected and degraded me (gotta love working in customer service roles), while other days I spent thirteen straight hours working with really lovely people. I felt run down and struggled to muster up the energy for simple things like having a conversation with a friend or putting away my clothes after disrobing each night. I loved that I was good…GREAT, actually…at learning a process someone else created; a process that helped to make tons of money for whoever ran the company or owned the company. Being a top performer allowed my ego to really thrive. However, I knew I didn’t love what I was doing. I was spending 40-60 hours a week doing a job that just didn’t feed my soul. Some people are okay with that and I respect that! We all have our reasons for staying in situations that may not be what we “want” or what we perceive to be rewarding.

I’m a positive patty…I think I’ve said that already.

No matter what, I always (really, ALWAYS) see the bright side, even if that side is 1mm long or wide. Here’s the thing…I seek meaning in life; I always have! What, then, was the meaning of my working in these roles; roles were not feeding my passions, were draining my energy and were contributing to unhealthy cycles of depression and anxiety. (Unfortunately, this last sentence is really true for me [and so many others, I know]. It’s not something I share often, but I’m no longer ashamed of that because I am owning it and really trying to change that!) I guess I fell victim to the comfort and security working for a huge corporation provides. The meaning of life was, “hey, Erika, your bills are paid and you can afford a pretty comfortable, modest lifestyle.”

It was supposed to be temporary.

Life is so exhilarating at times, and, other times, it feels really mundane.  There were times when was grateful I didn’t have much going on. (That is no longer the case for me. There’s so much going on now that little babes is here!) There were also times when I was so excited for the change(s) happening in life. Similarly, there were times when I was dissatisfied with the lack of excitement in my life and other times when I was completely overwhelmed by all the change occurring.

The desire for balance is so real when it kicks in.

Ultimately, insanity has to come to an end. Fear can only drive so many decisions. For me, it drove a lot of decisions; decisions to settle for a steady salary with benefits and a set schedule in a safe and conveniently located office. Those things aren’t bad; a LOT of people like, even LOVE that. (No judgment here. Whatever floats your boat, right?) However, it just wasn’t…isn’t how I want to live my life. Part of me suffered for a long time, but part of me believed and looked forward to something bigger coming out of it.

When is the right time for change or hard decisions?

I still work in Corporate America, but I dislike it less. I would like to think I’ll be out of there soon, but I simply can’t predict the future. It’s been ten years and I am so grateful for the opportunities and friendships I gained. All of the experience helped me evolve into the me I am today. I will always put my ALL into whatever I do. I just need to do more for where I WANT to be. (Cue Donnell Jones.) I’m working so hard on turning my passions into career opportunities, but there is still fear and doubt in my mind. I lack faith where there is fear. I lack God-fidence where there is doubt. I know this and I’m not proud of it. However, as a woman who follows Christ, I believe there is a larger plan and that all of this time I spent and continue to invest in Corporate America was not…is not in vain. I believe there is a lot of ahead of me and I continue to ask for increased faith and courage to take steps in the direction of the passions tucked away in my heart. The changes are already underway, as I believe the idea to create the #frwdmvmnt365pilot was an idea the Lord gave me; a blessing from God and one that would jump-start my journey to the pursuit of a fulfilling career that would, eventually, allow me to contribute to the financial needs of our household.

What is your why?

I had to make money somehow and Corporate America let me do that comfortably; I got a paycheck every two weeks and I received healthcare from great doctors or dentists for just a few dollars (co-pays, deductibles, you know the deal). That hasn’t changed. Today, I have to feed myself and contribute to the stability of the household I share with my husband. I have to help care for and afford essentials for our family. Income is a NECESSITY in today’s world. How I earn that income is the choice I have to really consider. It’s a choice that dictates the sacrifices and battles I need to be bold enough to choose and face; struggles I need to be strong enough to continue to fight through; sacrifices I need to be patient enough to endure.

Maybe none of that resonates with you. Its okay. That’s just MY struggle.

We may not have that struggle in common. Your struggle may be related to your personal relationships; your romantic relationships; your sexual identity; your spiritual or religious beliefs; your addiction(s); your physical or mental health; your investments; your bad habits; your relationship with yourself. The bottom line is, we are ALL struggling with SOMETHING. What that struggle looks like and how long we struggle for is far more within our control than we may want to admit. If FEAR is crippling your [inevitable] journey to a season of change, rest assured, I KNOW, firsthand, what you are experiencing. WE DON’T NEED TO REMAIN IN A STATE OF FEAR. I’ll say that again in a different way: FEAR DOES NOT SERVE US BECAUSE WE NEED AND DESERVE TO GROW. I no longer want to be a slave to fear. I made that decision a while ago and I began seeing change immediately.

Just start, already.

There is hardly ever a “right time” for anything in life. If you need to leave a relationship or a job or whatever isn’t helping you grow or contributing to your happiness, start walking away. Your graduation from that season may not happen overnight, but the second you BEGIN moving forward, you build momentum by doing SOMETHING and that something leads to change. It’s taken nearly ten years to just START taking #Frwdmvmnt to the next level, all because I was too scared of losing the stability Corporate America provided. I’m not leaving my corporate job tomorrow or maybe even any time in the next few years, but I’m starting to pour more of myself into what I KNOW I love.

Almost done…I promise!

If you got this far, thank you for reading and sharing in my experience. Your attention feeds a really special connection between us, so thanks for tuning in and allowing me to pour my heart out…AND DROP A NOTE BELOW so I know you stopped by! Vulnerability is one of my strengths and I’m grateful there are so many people who safeguard what I share and allow me to also participate as a supporter of the struggles they are facing. A very huge and special THANK YOU to those of you who opted to work with me this year. You helped pour more joy into my heart and fueled the passion in my soul. I have tears in my eyes thinking of the last nine months. I’m honestly in the baby, baby, baby phase of Frwdmvmnt’s development, but I’m SO GRATEFUL there is growth and that you’re apart of it. Thank you!

— E

Too Late for the 3rd Quarter?

Hi.

I thought about writing an update a while back and then the baby distracted me. LOL! This mom thing has been so fun. Sure, there are nights when I don’t get the best sleep. Sure, there are also days when I’m totally winging it.

Everyday…winging it?…that’s everyday.

I think the most important thing to share about the third quarter was that I was present. Change is constant and, sometimes, it requires your complete and undivided attention. Being a woman with goals, a wife to a man with goals, a mom to a baby with goals (believe it or not! this girl is determined!), a friend to others, a daughter to my parents, a sister to my brother, a cousin to my cousins…you get the idea, right? The point is, we all wear a bucket load of hats and each hat requires something different and sometimes pulls you in different directions. That said, it was a growth-filled third quarter and I needed to disconnect a little more.

What changed?

I got back into a training routine that was much more consistent and, gradually, increased in intensity. I also went back to work at my full-time job, which automatically resulted in our little one beginning daycare. I traveled a bit (think: six hour flight with the world’s most amazing and wondrous baby). My inbox grew busy with new inquiries regarding coaching after sharing some of the progress other clients made. I waited until very recently to begin taking on new clients again.  I learned [via a PET scan] my body is slowly, but surely, healing from Hodgkin’s lymphoma. I turned thirty. I began taking 10 minute walks after my meals in place of doing long bouts of steady state cardio. I also began a leg trainer named “Monolith,” authored by one of my all-time fitness role models and overall life mentors, Ashley Horner. My legs became much more shapely and my fitness improved vastly. I ran for the first time since becoming a mom. My mile time consistently hovered around the 8-minute mile pace. I signed up for my first 5K run in YEARS. I took some chances on my business and learned some really valuable lessons. I began Brianna Battles Pregnancy and Postpartum Athleticism course. I also enrolled in a social media tutorial course for budding online-business owners. I realized what direction Frwdmvmnt is headed and created a timeline to get a few key things handled.

Some things overlapped, while others happened as a result of other things.

The wondrous part of it all is that I survived. More than that, I enjoyed it all! I tried (and continue to try) not to get ahead of myself and focused on each day. I experienced less anxiety and stress; they have yet to completely disappear, but I think that allows for a healthy balance of emotions and drives accountability in all things I do (and don’t do). I adapted. I learned. I grew.

Life is good, if you let it be. It doesn’t have to be rainbows and butterflies all the time for it to be good. I truly believe that, even in hard times, we have the choice to experience joy. Making that choice does something for you and in you. It changes you and that change allows you to reach new levels. Maybe you haven’t accomplished all the things (or any of the things…no judgment from me!) you set out to accomplish this year. Guess what? THAT IS OKAY because, if you wake up tomorrow, you have another chance to make something happen. Start walking in the direction of those goals you have; whether it’s a spiritual goal, a physical goal, a career goal, a bucket-list goal, a family-related goal, a health goal or ANY goal. Nothing is off limits if you don’t allow it to be; let that be true for you and all you are passionate about. Be kind to yourself, but be accountable to YOURSELF. You can do it! Remember that I am offering free coaching until December 31, 2018! If you need some help, drop me a note and let’s talk about if and how I can support you.

I hope the next (and last) quarter of 2018 is even BETTER than the last. May you grow and prosper and CHOOSE to be happy.

— E

Second Quarter: Change

Well, we made it to the second quarter of the year! How did your first three months of 2018 look?! What changes have you made or had to adapt to entering the second quarter?

I’ll share first.

I gave birth to a strong, resilient and truly blessed baby on March 30, 2018. During the first three months of 2018, I kickstarted my coaching business and took on fourteen clients who allowed me to be a resource to them in their respective journeys. I did this while navigating my third trimester of pregnancy and preparing for the arrival of our first child. I admit there were times when I was unsure if I was doing the right thing; I was nervous about taking on clients while working full-time and preparing for this baby to get here. What a reward it’s been! I’m so happy I stepped out on faith and followed my heart. Coaching others has brought me such joy and fueled my heart with continuous passion and purpose.

Today, I’m a mom. 

There is nothing in the world that could have prepared me for the change I’m experiencing. I’m exhausted, overwhelmed, emotional and in pain (primarily from breastfeeding and from some weird stuff my body is doing). I’m also overcome with unconditional love for our new family member and get random spurts of energy in the late hours of the night (and early hours of the morning!) when I hear the little noises coming from this tiny person. It sounds kind of romantic, but it’s hard. I have to take each day for what it is. Some days I have more energy and I can clean a little, while other days are not as “productive.” Productive, however, has a new meaning in my life. The first trimester of pregnancy slowed me down and taught me to prioritize wisely. As time went on, balance looked different for me with the new changes my body and mind were undergoing. Balance looks even more different now that our baby is here. On the days I don’t have a lot of energy, I have to be at peace with breastfeeding and showering being the most “productive” things I do. I AM at peace with that and I’m grateful that this experience is so challenging because it is humbling me and allowing me the opportunity to take each day as a new chance to be present.

Change is hard, but it isn’t impossible.

As I enter the second quarter of this year, I can share that BUILDING HABITS, DEVELOPING A DAILY PRACTICE, CELEBRATING MILESTONES, KEEPING UP THE MOMENTUM, and, the most basic concept, JUST GETTING STARTED can catapult you into change that is rewarding and fulfilling.

Coaching is that change for me.

Today, I was able to check in with my clients and get caught up on some work for their individual programs. One of my clients commended me for having given birth under two weeks ago and still committing to the responsibility I took on by checking in during this time. I don’t think my clients realize how my involvement in their journey helps me to find balance in my own journey. Coaching others is something that I do because I genuinely love it. I wouldn’t be a good mom if my only priority was to be a mom. Being a mom is one of my top priorities, but it isn’t the only hat I wear and getting some solid work done today really boosted my morale and helped me to feel much more normal in a time of drastic change.

Do what is right for you and if it doesn’t feel right, stop doing it.

This isn’t my personal blog, so I typically don’t get too deep into what I have going on. However, I share more today because I DO practice what I preach. The tips I posted since January are proving fruitful for me in ways that far exceed monetary compensation. I hope my example illustrates to you that honoring what is in your heart leads to breakthroughs you can and will experience by taking chances and making change. Only you know what is truly in your heart, so be honest with yourself and keep doing your best. Life throws curveballs every single day, but you don’t have to be frazzled by anything if you are staying true to yourself; it IS possible to be at peace during times of immense change.

If you’re unhappy with your first three months of 2018, fret not; you still have another nine to go! Do your best to make small adjustments to your daily routine. Focus on baby steps that intend to lead you toward a bigger goal, be it a career goal, a wellness goal, a relationship goal, a financial goal or anything outside of those examples. Rome wasn’t built in a day, right? Well, your future won’t be determined by what you do in one day. Rather, it will shape out to be a result of collective, consistent efforts made by you in order to produce change. Start small, stay focused, keep up the momentum and celebrate your milestones! 

Have a great start to the second quarter! Make each day count and be sure to check back in within the next few weeks for more from me!

— E

Self-Renewal: Results

Hey Everyone! We’re entering the third month of the year and during the last two months, I spoke with a lot of people who shared testimonies about significant breakthroughs in their lives. Those breakthroughs came in the form financial blessings, career opportunities, weight-loss, improved health, relationship progress, improved balance in their lives and the list goes on.

How are you doing?!

While it’s easy to report on the results and fruit of your labor, it’s not always easy to stay the course when you’re journeying toward change. I just wanted to take a few minutes to share the main take-aways I received while learning about these hard-working people and their inspiring breakthroughs.

Why did they see results?

The most COMMON DENOMINATOR these people shared was that they STARTED. What do I mean? They took steps toward doing something, even if they weren’t sure where their steps would take them. They took chances, despite the doubts and fears they experienced at the beginning and, undoubtedly, throughout the process of achieving their respective successes. Often times, people get stuck thinking about all the pros and cons of an idea and they’re so intimidated by the “what ifs” that they don’t do anything except continue to think about what they may lose or gain. STOP IT. Don’t just think; DO.

How did they continue to move in an upward direction?

I want to preface this next sentence by reminding you that there will be inevitable setbacks when you are stepping out on faith, taking risks and doing something different. In spite of those setbacks, these people KEPT pushing and fighting for what they believed would change their lives for the better. When one door closed, they had their moment (or moments) of discouragement, but picked up again and tried something else. Whether it was seeking guidance from someone who had already “been there, done that” or just taking another risk after reassessing their previous failed attempt, there was a new direction taken in order to achieve the same desired result.

Easier said than done, right?

I began reading “Originals” by the very insightful and, honestly, just brilliant Adam Grant. This book opened by eyes to the FACT, not opinion, that successful people aren’t more talented than everyone else; they often just make more attempts at getting the job done. He talks about Beethoven and Picasso, each famous for their creativity and success, having produced TONS of works before earning that stamp of approval by others for just a few of those works. They produced work that was highly regarded and work that went on to be criticized for being less than their “best.” They didn’t STOP; they kept going. They and many others who are “killing it” in their fields faced (and continue to face) criticism, failure, rejection and discouragement, but kept pushing and continue to strive for the goals they set.

How can you succeed?

Again, you need to start where you are and stop thinking about whatever it is you’re thinking about. Accept that failure and challenges will be part of the process, but resolve to continue trying despite the inevitable hardships ahead of you. Get yourself some support; people or resources that will help to keep you on track and getting back to the grind. Will Smith, an American actor most famous for his roles in “The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air,” the “Men In Black” film series and the “Bad Boys” film series, to name a few, created an Instagram account (that I highly recommend you follow!)  and shared a video where he spoke about success. A fan told with him that he also wanted to be a famous actor and become successful, like Will had done in his 30+ year career. Will told the story and offered some insight; so many people want the success, but aren’t willing to put in the work and make the sacrifices necessary to achieve that success. YOU HAVE TO PUT IN THE WORK, MAKE THE SACRIFICES AND MAKE IT HAPPEN.

If you do anything in your life, please do something that will force you to step outside of your comfort zone. Forge the growth you’re absolutely capable of and watch your life start to change. I don’t have any statistics to support this next statement, but I bet YOU are the person/thing/obstacle in the way of your goals. When you resolve and commit to that resolution of change, you will do what you have to in order to see change. Why waste time thinking about things for so long when you can use that energy to try things that will lead to results. Remember, results, negative or positive, are feedback that will guide your next steps. Don’t live in fear of failure; live in spite of that fear and push fear out of the equation.

Have a great March! I’ll check in again in a couple of weeks! If you’re looking for some help in creating your own breakthrough, reach out between now and March 10, 2018 so we can discuss how we may be able to benefit from working together in a coach/client setting. I’m taking two new clients in March to begin March 18, 2018!

— E

Self-renewal: Momentum Milestones

Happy Sunday, everyone! I hope everyone had a productive week and is seeing the fruits of their daily labor in even the smallest of ways.

always look for reasons to be grateful

I just wanted to pick up where I left off last week when talking about remaining consistent and keeping up the momentum when pursuing a dream. This post won’t be too long, as I only intend to hit on one major theme: milestones.

What do I mean by milestones in this case?

I googled the definition of milestone and the following popped up: 1. a stone set up beside a road to mark the distance in miles to a particular place, and 2. an action or event marking a significant change or stage in development. BOTH hit the nail on the head in relation to this post! How many times have you set a long-term goal and gotten lost in the process of getting there? Whether you lost sight of the overall goal, just gave up because of that feeling that it was so big you couldn’t succeed, or life got in the way and circumstances prevented you from continuing to pursue it, YOU ARE STILL CAPABLE of getting to the goal. There may be some delays or relays you run again, but your goals can be attained, even when they seem impossibly far or too big.

I promise I’m not just being super positive…

Last year, I just became so tired of a victim of the mentality that I didn’t have the power to change my circumstances because of all my other circumstances. I had big dreams; some financial, some body/weight-related, some family focused. I didn’t even share them with anyone because, in my head, they sounded ridiculous. I kept them to myself and wrote them down, prayed about it and just believed for direction. The ideas started popping up; smaller (time-bound) goals that, over time, would lead me to the big goals that seemed almost impossible to achieve.

BABY STEPS!

I set realistic goals, typically set out in 4-week increments, that I would work toward. I checked in with myself weekly and was honest with myself about where I was and what I was doing (or not) to get there. There were a lot….I MEAN A LOT… of times when I completely failed myself. I failed to put in the work; discipline and consistency were hard when my stress-levels were high because of all the curveballs life threw me and I used those excuses as crutches to defend myself against my failures. Ultimately, I was in control of what I was choosing to put my energy toward and whether or not I allowed emotions to influence my commitment to those goals.

What ended up happening?

Over time, my mental health improved and my emotional health also made great strides. I dropped the excuses (back injury, cancer, fatigue, etc) and lost the twenty pounds I wanted to lose for the two years leading up to that point. My family life got a lot smoother because I felt better about myself and was focusing on making progress versus bombarding my support system with complaints about how frustrated I was with x, y and z. I also started seeing growth in my career and felt way more confident at work. With respect to my financial situation, I learned [last week] that my credit score improved significantly and I’ve been able to contribute more to my savings, while still managing my debt from a healthier financial state.

Be accountable.

Ultimately, we make decisions and those decisions direct our paths. I could have continued to cycle of self-loathing, digging myself deeper into depression and becoming more of a mental and emotional burden on those around me. It’s important to note that I got help when I needed it. I swallowed my pride, identified my poor habits, committed to change and sought help from people who could serve as an additional resource to my growth in order to truly facilitate the change I was seeking. I had to set weekly, sometimes DAILY goals, in order to be able to create change and see the fruits of my labor. I was discouraged some days, but I kept track of where I was and how far from that weekly or daily goal I was; this helped me to get back on track and meet that next goal versus focusing on the huge goal I was using the small goals to work toward.

You can and will see change if you commit to it. I tend to get overwhelmed by what I perceive to be “too big,” which leads to discouragement and, sometimes, quitting before even starting. I know I’m not alone! If this sounds like you, don’t be too proud to chunk down your dreams. Set that huge goal, but break it down into smaller goals so you can get there over time. If you need help, I’d love to work with you! Free coaching in February is officially full, but I’ll be accepting new clients in March, free of charge under the #frwdmvmnt365pilot. ALL COACHING IN 2018 IS FREE, so take advantage and work on your own breakthrough with me by your side. If that isn’t something that interests you, no worries! Keep working hard on those roadblocks and commit to the growth you desire. I’ll continue to post tips and share my own testimonies, so stay tuned!

Have a great week!

— E

Self-renewal: Momentum

Happy Friday, folks! We’re officially done with the first five weeks of the year and I’m pretty excited about how things are moving forward. I’ve had the opportunity to catch up with people I do life with, some who I don’t get to chat with as often, but still share my life with. I’m happy to report that my friends and/or family are doing big things!

It’s a Year of Breakthroughs!

People are applying for new positions; getting promoted; entering new (healthier and much more fulfilling) relationships; trying new things and developing new habits (with the intention of living happier, more balanced lives); taking risks and stepping out of their comfort zones.

straight up inspiring!

I’m very fortunate to have the opportunity to work with a couple of my friends now in the #frwdmvmnt365pilot, which launched last month. I must admit that I am very proud of the people I’m working with, as they’re super serious about their goals and they are putting in the work to see change. As a coach, there is nothing I find more rewarding than helping someone to overcome a barrier and seeing results come from patience and diligence.

Consistency breeds change.

What keeps someone consistent? How can someone who is passed the initial honeymoon phase (common for anyone starting something new) remain motivated and/or keep the momentum to press on? It really depends on the person, but I’ve found that focusing on the distance left in the journey results in discouragement, while focusing on the distance traveled results in continued motivation. Working with people in very different walks of life has exposed me to different mindsets some work through, barriers some face and overall challenges in respective journeys. The common denominator in ALL people I’ve worked with is that they become discouraged when they feel their goal is too far away.

Focus on the journey!

The most important part of your journey for change is not the change itself, friends. I believe the most important part of your journey is the process you undergo in order to become who you want to be; the sacrifices you make, including sacrificing your former self; the commitments you honor; the spirit you develop along the way; the mental toughness you fight for in order to let go of what no longer serves you. That process is what makes the goal or destination so worth it; it’s what I believe you should focus on each and every day. Showing up every single day is what will produce results. Your best effort may not be the same as the day before, but that experience is your own. Believe that the ups and downs of each day are to be expected and are, hopefully, honored as a lesson or a victory for the next day.

Whoever you are, wherever you are in life , you can change whatever is no longer working for you. Be true to yourself and do your best. Just be honest with yourself! You can’t get from point A to point B if you’re denying that denying A is no longer where you want to be. If you need some help or guidance, drop a message in my contact box and sign up for free coaching under the #frwfmvmnt365pilot. I’m now accepting February clients through February 10th for a February 18th start. 

Have a great February, otherwise!

— E

Self-renewal: Building Habits

Happy Sunday, folks! We’re two weeks into 2018 and I’m wondering how everyone is doing with their “resolutions” or whatever you may have labeled your resolve for change.

Drop me a message…

In my own journey, I’ve remained consistent in developing prayer habits, nutrition/exercise protocol and daily routines that [realistically] fit my desired lifestyle, current schedule and goals. I didn’t make drastic changes to what I was doing before. I’ve simply built on the already consistent habits I adopted for my current lifestyle and implemented minor changes with the intention of seeing steady growth in particular areas of my life.

You can do the same thing!

My intention these days is to help others do that, while still maintaining a balanced lifestyle and continue taking care of myself in the process. I received several inquiries from people yearning for changes in their training, nutrition and overall well-being. I’m excited to work with a few of them this month and grow with them in order to achieve breakthroughs in their desired areas of life!

#frwdmvmnt365pilot

I just wanted to send a note out to encourage others who are not working with me in a coach/client setting to really consider what you DESIRE; write it down and make a promise to yourself to change one, small part of your day so that you can reach that goal. Remember, goals have timelines attached to them; otherwise, your desire is just a wish.

What holds you back?

I spoke to a few people who expressed concerns about time bound goals. I learned that those concerns stem from the fear of failure. In some cases, I observed that pre-existing struggles with anxiety and/or depression were what led to the feeling of “added pressure” after that person actually considered setting a deadline for their goal. As a person who has dealt with and overcome anxiety and depression, I understand that the concept of having a deadline can be stressful.

You’re not alone…

One of most important and powerful lessons I’ve learned throughout my journey is that, deadline or no deadline, remaining in the very place I want to leave hurts my mental and emotional health more than taking steps to move forward. I don’t like failing; I’m a perfectionist and become obsessive with projects and to-do’s I assign to myself. However, failure is inevitable and this is an indisputable fact. I have only ever grown after failing; after learning that what I thought would work simply wasn’t working. I’ve also learned that goals motivate me to, at least, get started. In the times I failed to assign a deadline or time bound goal to my wishes, those wishes remained wishes; forgotten dreams. That, alone, is failure. I find it a lot more rewarding to TRY to make something happen and fail to meet the deadline than to wish I would have started, but chose to remain in the same place a month or year later.

It’s never too late to start!

Everyone has a starting point when they are setting out to pursue a dream or make a change of some sort. Even the professionals began as novices. Don’t wait to do the things you want to do or become the person you truly want to be. If you need some help sorting through your thoughts and turning your dreams into goals, I’ll be taking new clients in February, FREE OF CHARGE, as part of the #frwdmvmnt365pilot.

You are capable of doing anything you set your mind to. If you’re reading this, you probably live in a first world country, have access to internet and a phone or computer, have some free time and an open mind. In my book, you have everything you need to START doing something different. Use your free time more wisely, write down a goal (just ONE, if that’s all you can realistically set out to achieve), brainstorm with someone or use the internet to figure out how you can get started on achieving that goal and pick a date you want to complete step ONE by. It may be scary, nerve-wracking, or intimidating, but the good thing is that you don’t need to share this with anyone but yourself. Cheers to breakthroughs!

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